I only browsed through a handful of the comments but the general consensus on this, is that most would let the family know about the issues at hand. I often wonder if family members were not in the equation would your answers be the same? So lets cut right past all the shenanigans, and get to the core of this dilemma. We either follow what our company is asking us to do like an obedient space monkey, or we go against the grain and leak some information.
This all depends on the type of person you are and you can look at it the same way Edmund Burke told it, “All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.”
If we don’t think about the repercussions and go along with holding information that could be key to effecting our employees lives, then we let evil win because we did nothing. This can show what type of character we truly are. If family was out of the equation what would you do? What kind of employee would you have been? People strive to create trust between employees to better themselves for the company and for the team. It creates better productivity and comradery within the company. What if this incident happened, what choices would you make? You would have to look in the eyes of all those people that put their trust in you, and turn your back on them in an instant. It is as if you are coming to their house and taking the food right off their table, that they worked so hard to provide for their children. Status and money are nothing against the power of word of mouth. Respect and honor are ideals that should be held high and the trust you earn with other co workers should be held in that same respect.
Would I leak they information… Well before I did, I would do my best to work with the the “higher ups” to make them aware of the damage this can cause and try to find a work around to better the situation. If they were unwilling then yes I would let family members within the company know as well as the rest. What is a man without his honor and respect? It seems that he would be just a miserable pile of secrets.
I would hire a PR employee of the same standards.
Now ask yourself if you can walk around with that guilt for the rest of your life, knowing how many careers you destroyed in one swift move. Sun Tzu once said, “It is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you will not be imperiled in a hundred battles; if you do not know your enemies but do know yourself, you will win one and lose one; if you do not know your enemies nor yourself, you will be imperiled in every single battle.”